1 Thessalonians 5:18
In everything give thanks for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
What if you woke up today with only the things you were thankful for to God on yesterday?
Alphonse Karr “Some people grumble that roses have thorns, I am grateful that thorns have roses.”
Oprah Winfrey “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”
Week 3 – My Business
1 Thessalonians 5:18 In everything give thanks for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
John F. Kennedy “We must find time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives.”
1 Thessalonians 5:18
In everything give thanks for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
Marcus Proust
“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
Domestic Violence and the African American Community
Domestic and intimate partner violence (DV/IPV) is a “family secret” in our Black communities.
According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, an estimated 1.3 million American women experience DV/ IPV each year. Women make up 85% of victims of DV/IPV, Despite this most cases are never reported to police and most women are victimized by people they know.
And for Black women, it’s an even bigger problem: Black women are almost three times as likely to experience death as a result of DV/ IPV then White women. And while Black women only make up 8% of the population, 22% of homicides that result from DV/ IPV happen to Black Women and 29% of all victimized women, making it one of the leading causes of death for Black women ages 15 to 35. Statistically, we experience sexual assault and DV/ IPV at disproportionate rates and have the highest rates of intra-racial violence against us than any other group. We are also less likely to report or seek help when we are victimized.
African American Framework
Domestic violence affects all Americans, regardless of race, gender, or socioeconomic status. However, this threat has disproportionately dire consequences for African-American families. African-American women experience intimate partner violence at rates 35% higher than their white counterparts and 2.5 times the rate of men and other races (Idvaac.org). They also account for a disproportionate number of intimate partner homicides. Although the majority of African Americans in the U.S. worship as Christians and rely on churches for social service help, research also says that “the rate of abuse in religious homes is exactly the same as in the general population.” (Catherine Clark Kroeger, co-founder of Peace and Safety in the Christian Home (PASCH)”, (Martin, 2007, p. 25)
Domestic violence is not a martial or relationship problem, it is a crime. National Statistics (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence – ncadv.org)
– On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.1
– 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime.
– Studies suggest that up to 10 million children witness some for of domestic violence annually.
– On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.
– Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.
– 1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to the violence.
– Statistics show that Black women typically comprise about 70% of black congregations. Religious convictions and a fear of shame or rejection from the church may contribute to their remaining in abusive relationships.
– Because of historical and present-day racism. Black women may be less likely to report her abuser or seek help because of discrimination, Black men’s vulnerability to police brutality and negative stereotyping.
Nevada Statistics Regarding Domestic Violence
– Nevada consistently ranks 1st in the nation for domestic violence fatalities and 2nd worst for domestic violence overall.
– 95% of Nevada calls to domestic violence hotlines involve emotional or verbal abuse including threats, insults, humiliation, and isolation.
– Females ages 30-44 in Nevada are most likely to be the victims of domestic violence and nationally 95% of domestic violence victims are women.
– Law enforcement is likely to be involved in 36% of all domestic violence calls in Nevada.
– Repeat offenders account for more than 75% of all domestic violence incidents in Nevada.
– In Clark County, the average for women affected by domestic violence is 1 out of 3 women.
2018 Victims of Domestic Violence in Las Vegas
– February 3rd – Christina Wheeler Vivas, 39, (mother of 6 children) was shot and killed by her husband, while 4 children were in the home.
– August 18th – Claudia Cordero-Garcia, 20, was shot and killed by her 25-year old boyfriend, two days after Cordero-Garcia told her family she intended to leave her boyfriend. Her boyfriend turned the gun on himself.
GOOGLE: Safety Plan
If you are in crisis, contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or www.TheHotline.org.
CHR Website – https://www.chrinc.net
CHR Facebook – fb.me/CHRINCNV
#SurvivorSpeaks
This months topic is on: Domestic Violence Awareness
What Is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically;
The Power & Control Wheel
Is Your Relationship Based on Power and Control?
Physical and sexual assaults, or threats to commit them are the most apparent forms of domestic violence and are usually the actions that allow others to become aware of the problem. However, regular use of the other abusive behaviors by the batterer, when reinforced by one or more acts of physical violence, make up a larger system of abuse. Although physical assaults may occur only once or occasionally, they instill threat of future violent attacks and allow the abuser to take control of the women’s life circumstances.
The Power & Control diagram is a particularly helpful tool in understanding the overall pattern of abusive and violent behaviors, which are used by a batterer to establish and maintain control over his partner. Very often, one or more violent incidents are accompanied by an army of these other types of abuse. They are less easily identified, yet firmly established a pattern of intimidation and control in the relationship.
Power & Control Wheel: http://www.wcfarkansas.org/cycle-of-d…
If you are in crisis, contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or www.TheHotline.org.
CHR Website – https://www.chrinc.net
CHR Facebook – fb.me/CHRINCNV #SurvivorSpeaks
Email: Mhouse@mfmnv.org
This months topic is on: Domestic Violence Awareness
What Is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically;
What Does Abuse Include?
Abuse may begin with behaviors that may easily be dismissed or downplayed such as name-calling, threats, possessiveness, or distrust. Abusers may apologize profusely for their actions or try to convince the person they are abusing that they do these things out of love or care. However, violence and control always intensifies over time with an abuser, despite the apologies. What may start out as something that was first believed to be harmless (e.g. wanting the victim to spend all their time only with them because they love them so much) escalates into extreme control and abuse (e.g. threatening to kill or hurt the victim or others if they speak to family, friends, etc.).
Some examples of abusive tendencies include but are not limited to:
– Telling the victim that they can never do anything right
– Showing jealousy of the victim’s family and friends and time spent away
– Accusing the victim of cheating
– Keeping or discouraging the victim from seeing friends and family members
– Embarrassing or shaming the victim with put-downs
– Controlling every penny spent in the household
– Taking the victim’s money or refusing to give them money for expenses
– Looking at or acting in ways that scare the person they are abusing
– Controlling who the victim sees, where they go, or what they do
– Dictating how the victim dresses, wears their hair, etc.
– Stalking the victim or monitoring their victim’s every move (in person or also via the internet and/ or other devices such as GPS tracking or the victim’s phone)
– Preventing the victim from making their own decisions
– Telling the victim that they are a bad parent or threatening to hurt, kill, or take away their children
– Threating to hurt or kill the victim’s friends, oved ones or pets
– Intimidating the victim with guns, knives, or other weapons
– Pressuring the victim to have sex when they don’t want to or to do things sexually they are not comfortable with
– Forcing sex with others
– Refusing to use protection when having sex or sabotaging the birth control – Pressuring or forcing the victim to use drugs or alcohol
– Preventing the victim from working or attending school, harassing the victim at either, keeping their victim up all night so they perform badly at their job or in school
– Destroying the victim’s property
If you are in crisis, contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or www.TheHotline.org.
CHR Website – https://www.chrinc.net
CHR Facebook – fb.me/CHRINCNV #SurvivorSpeaks
Is Domestic Violence Always Physical Abuse? It is important to note that domestic violence does not always manifest as physical abuse. Emotional and psychological abuse can often be just as extreme as physical violence. Lack of physical violence does not mean the abuser is any less dangerous to the victim, nor does it mean the victim is any less trapped by the abuse.
This months topic is on: Domestic Violence Awareness
NCADV started in October 1981 as a Day of Unity and has grown into a national month of awareness
CHR Facebook – fb.me/CHRINCNV #SurvivorSpeaks
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence – NCADV.ORG What Is Domestic Violence? Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically;
DID YOU KNOW?
• In the United States, an average of 20 people experience intimate partner physical violence every minute. This equates to more than 10 million abuse victims annually.
• 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, post- traumatic stress disorder, use of victim services, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases, etc. This is commonly considered “domestic violence”.
• On a typical day, domestic violence hotlines nationwide receive over 20,000 calls.
1. STALKING
○ 19.3 million women and 5.1 million men in the United States have been stalked.14
○ 66.2% of female stalking victims reported stalking by a current or former intimate partner.
WHY IT MATTERS
Domestic violence is prevalent in every community, and affects all people regardless of age, socio-economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. Physical violence is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior as part of a much larger, systematic pattern of dominance and control. Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and even death. The devastating consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime.
If you are in crisis, contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or www.TheHotline.org.
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