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This months topic is on: Domestic Violence Awareness
What Is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically; 
The Power & Control Wheel
Is Your Relationship Based on Power and Control?
Physical and sexual assaults, or threats to commit them are the most apparent forms of domestic violence and are usually the actions that allow others to become aware of the problem. However, regular use of the other abusive behaviors by the batterer, when reinforced by one or more acts of physical violence, make up a larger system of abuse. Although physical assaults may occur only once or occasionally, they instill threat of future violent attacks and allow the abuser to take control of the women’s life circumstances.
The Power & Control diagram is a particularly helpful tool in understanding the overall pattern of abusive and violent behaviors, which are used by a batterer to establish and maintain control over his partner. Very often, one or more violent incidents are accompanied by an army of these other types of abuse. They are less easily identified, yet firmly established a pattern of intimidation and control in the relationship.
Power & Control Wheel: http://www.wcfarkansas.org/cycle-of-d…
If you are in crisis, contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or www.TheHotline.org.
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Welcome to Wisdom from the House!

This months topic is on: Domestic Violence Awareness
What Is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically; 
What Does Abuse Include?
Abuse may begin with behaviors that may easily be dismissed or downplayed such as name-calling, threats, possessiveness, or distrust. Abusers may apologize profusely for their actions or try to convince the person they are abusing that they do these things out of love or care. However, violence and control always intensifies over time with an abuser, despite the apologies. What may start out as something that was first believed to be harmless (e.g. wanting the victim to spend all their time only with them because they love them so much) escalates into extreme control and abuse (e.g. threatening to kill or hurt the victim or others if they speak to family, friends, etc.).
Some examples of abusive tendencies include but are not limited to:
– Telling the victim that they can never do anything right
– Showing jealousy of the victim’s family and friends and time spent away
– Accusing the victim of cheating
– Keeping or discouraging the victim from seeing friends and family members
– Embarrassing or shaming the victim with put-downs
– Controlling every penny spent in the household
– Taking the victim’s money or refusing to give them money for expenses
– Looking at or acting in ways that scare the person they are abusing
– Controlling who the victim sees, where they go, or what they do
– Dictating how the victim dresses, wears their hair, etc.
– Stalking the victim or monitoring their victim’s every move (in person or also via the internet and/ or other devices such as GPS tracking or the victim’s phone)
– Preventing the victim from making their own decisions
– Telling the victim that they are a bad parent or threatening to hurt, kill, or take away their children
– Threating to hurt or kill the victim’s friends, oved ones or pets
– Intimidating the victim with guns, knives, or other weapons
– Pressuring the victim to have sex when they don’t want to or to do things sexually they are not comfortable with
– Forcing sex with others
– Refusing to use protection when having sex or sabotaging the birth control – Pressuring or forcing the victim to use drugs or alcohol
– Preventing the victim from working or attending school, harassing the victim at either, keeping their victim up all night so they perform badly at their job or in school
– Destroying the victim’s property
If you are in crisis, contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or www.TheHotline.org.
CHR Website – https://www.chrinc.net
CHR Facebook – fb.me/CHRINCNV  #SurvivorSpeaks

Is Domestic Violence Always Physical Abuse? It is important to note that domestic violence does not always manifest as physical abuse. Emotional and psychological abuse can often be just as extreme as physical violence. Lack of physical violence does not mean the abuser is any less dangerous to the victim, nor does it mean the victim is any less trapped by the abuse.

Welcome to Wisdom from the House!

This months topic is on: Domestic Violence Awareness
NCADV started in October 1981 as a Day of Unity and has grown into a national month of awareness
CHR Facebook – fb.me/CHRINCNV  #SurvivorSpeaks

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence – NCADV.ORG What Is Domestic Violence? Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically; 

DID YOU KNOW?
• In the United States, an average of 20 people experience intimate partner physical violence every minute. This equates to more than 10 million abuse victims annually.
• 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, post- traumatic stress disorder, use of victim services, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases, etc. This is commonly considered “domestic violence”.
• On a typical day, domestic violence hotlines nationwide receive over 20,000 calls.
1. STALKING
○ 19.3 million women and 5.1 million men in the United States have been stalked.14
○ 66.2% of female stalking victims reported stalking by a current or former intimate partner.
WHY IT MATTERS
Domestic violence is prevalent in every community, and affects all people regardless of age, socio-economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. Physical violence is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior as part of a much larger, systematic pattern of dominance and control. Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and even death. The devastating consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime.
If you are in crisis, contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or www.TheHotline.org.
CHR Website – https://www.chrinc.net